Do you believe in destiny? Do you believe that there is some kind of hidden force that determines the path that we should take? That from the moment we’re born our fates have been sealed already? If you think about it this way, then life would be too damn easy. We just wait what transpires and allow everything to flow smoothly like how it’s meant to be. This is just like saying, we should settle by what has been laid upon us since this is how destiny works for and there is nothing we can do about this anymore. Ergo, there is no choice for us but to submit ourselves completely into it and let it run our lives until our very last breath.
“Your destiny is shaped according to the combination of conditions pre-determined at birth and other factors that you are able to change through your own efforts.” -from the book “The Essence of Buddha”
If you believe that no personal choices can be made to alter your destiny then you are mistaken. We are completely in control of our lives. Destiny is just an opportunity laid down upon us the moment we were born but it depends upon us on how we react on it. It depends upon the choices we make in the course of our journey. Say for example, most people are successful not only because they are destined to be but because they made themselves to be. During the course of their life, they made significant, life-changing choices and efforts to achieve what they wanted. It’s just that, for some people, things do not turn out the way they expected it to be but that doesn’t mean that you stop making your own choices for yourself and give other people the chance to influence your choices in a negative way.
When things do not turn out the way we expected, it does not mean that it’s not meant for us or we made a wrong decision. Maybe it is not yet the right time or something better awaits for us. When you think about it, it’s not really that bad at all since in every decision we make, whether it is good or bad, there are lessons that life teaches us. We may be confused sometimes on how destiny works but they say everything happens for a reason. We might not be able to fathom out the reasons behind everything nor have the faintest inkling at all but believe me, God knows the right time and He won’t put you in a situation you cannot handle. There is something more profound in every details behind each of our lives and one day, in the right time, when you are able find the answers and reasons behind all of it. You’ll know there is more to life that what the eyes can see. Destiny really works in a very mysterious way and to answer the question, there are things we can alter through the choices we make but there are things that we cannot.